I know I haven’t been on here in a year. It was a rough year. I watched my father slowly deteriorate until he finally passed away at home. I am glad my brother was able to make it up this past fall for Dad’s birthday.
It was hard to see the strongest person I knew grow weaker and weaker. This is the man who could fix a anything and build anything all with one cup of coffee in the other hand or within arms reach. He was in and out of the hospital with heart and lung related problems for the past few years.
I drove up the week before he passed. It was during a snow storm and sat with Judy for 3 and a half hours before my father woke up. He was so swollen and had shingles sores on his head and side of his face. I saw him for 45 seconds and told him I loved him and left. A little over a week later I was stuck after my normal hours on a phone call at work. I heard the supervisor line ring and knew immediately what it was.
The wake and the funeral were small in comparison to what I had thought in my mind. I thought that more people would show up. They always seemed to be having friends over throughout the years, I pictured 60+ people. Just sad that most of the population doesn’t read the obituaries.
The services were beautiful. Dad had healed up and was in his dress uniform (Navy). He looked so at peace and I swear ten to fifteen years younger. I leaned over and kissed him good-bye, but couldn’t bear to be there when they closed the casket. Judy was the only one at the cemetery. It’s the way they both wanted it.
My step mother, Judy, keeps running into countless people, who all ask how Ed was doing, and then she has to explain he passed and not breakdown in the process. My father was Judy’s life. The past year or so he had to give up driving. She hasn’t driven in 30 years and shouldn’t start now. Thankfully she has friends who take her where she needs to go. They spent 24 hours a day for the past 5+ years since she retired. I know I am going to miss him. Of course he was my father. But my father was her everything.
Makes you stop and be thankful for who is in your life and appreciate them more.